Ever heard the saying ‘you are who you surround yourself with’? I didn’t believe it until it happened to me, It sounds silly right? Surely you are whoever you want to be and people shouldn’t change you as a person. You are in control of your own life. Wrong. The people around you have a huge influence on the person you become, your success and your daily mood, if you are surrounded by sad, negative, non motivated people otherwise known as toxic, how are you meant to be happy and successful the two just don’t work. For example when I was in high school, if my friends were sad or having boy issues, it always reflected on me, I soon found myself in the same situations without knowing, this always brings people together because you can relate. How is a positive person and a happy person meant to get along? Theres no connection simply because if you are feeling down about something you don’t want to hear all the great things about someone else’s life. This tends to have a big impact on positive people because if that person you surround yourself with isn’t succeeding then you almost feel as if you shouldn’t be and vice a versa!
Towards the end of last year I went from a happy, positive, motivated person who had a lot of goals and really wanted to succeed in a lot of things to someone who was very sad and stressed. I then started putting all my time and energy into something very negative so my goals took a back seat. I was lucky to realise this very early on and managed to change the situation after it had sunk it how much a small change in my life made to my personality and the person I was becoming.
Please surround yourself with good people, you don’t need negative people in your life and if they aren’t supporting you then you shouldn’t be supporting them. I’d rather be alone than with someone that brings me down. It’s your life after all and you have to make it a bloody good one. Friends really aren’t as important as you might think, so if they aren’t making you happy you’ll do just fine with out them.